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Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses

Discussion in 'TalkCeltic Pub' started by Drakhan, Apr 8, 2016.

Discuss Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses in the TalkCeltic Pub area at TalkCeltic.net.

  1. kyndig

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    This combination is very underrated and not well known, I poste here a few times, most are deficient in Magnesium and it really help balance your mood and energy.

    I drink 2 bottles of Vitamin Water a day which is a combination of magnesium and vitamin c.
     
  2. KRS-1888 BDP Still #1

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    Mad how much of a void someone can leave in your life.
     
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  3. Pearse67*

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    Glad that the whole xmas - new year period is over, its a time of the year that really has a detrimental effect on my mental health.

    The binge eating, drinking, the huge stress we put on ourselves regarding buying things we dont really need.

    Social media plays a huge role in it now, i feel it is a huge anti climax and each year now i find myself saying im not repeating it but we do.
     
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    I despise this time of year, including Xmas, I dread it more and more as I get older. It's good having the time off work but I feel exhausted by it all and I'm glad it's over, still have a few days to kinda relax, and get back into the habit of eating properly and packing the drink in for a while.

    Getting rid of my social media pages was the best thing I've done to be honest. I missed scrolling through Facebook at first, but after a few weeks or so, I really didn't miss it at all. Must be over a year since I've used anything like Facebook or Twitter, and never had Instagram or anything like that. Don't think the impact these things can have on people's mental health can be overstated.
     
  5. Pearse67*

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    Thats the word i would use, exhausted.

    I havent really done much yet im exhausted, im on facebook and have some * on my friends list who i utterly despise, mad when ya think about it.

    Going to delete it today because tbh it doesnt enrich my life in any way.
     
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    There's good that has come from social media I'm sure, but overall I began to find it absolutely toxic. That documentary The Social Dilemma was pretty interesting. I'd deleted my pages before watching it but after watching it, just made me sure my decision to do so was correct!
     
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  7. Pearse67*

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    Is that doc on netflix, never seen it.
     
  8. stew37

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    Aye think it is mate. Interviews with the original engineers of the most popular social media pages, talking about how they never use social media now, don't let their kids use it etc. There was also a part focusing on the increase in suicide among children since the increase and development of social media. Obviously a lot of it is maybe just theory and opinions, but some scary stuff!
     
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    I watched that myself, I don't have any active social media (my mental health is bad enough without it) but if I did I would delete it after watching that. Scary stuff, just * about with people's lives
     
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    Just watched it, frightening and truthful.

    The age of disinformation, look at the things lately, trump, brexit, covid, what exactly is next????

    One of Mans worst creations imo.

    Just deleted fb also, like the kid in the programme lets see how long i last.

    The entire planet is being manipulated.
     
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    Its a * time of year. I say it all the time and come across as a miserable *, but it’s true.

    Massive consumption, unrelenting greed, addiction issues fed, families getting themselves in debt just to keep up appearances etc. the list could go on and on. It’s the worst side of most people, imo.

    People really need to learn to step away from it all.
     
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    You definitely don't sound like a miserable *. Xmass is a very depressing time for alot of people. Me, I * hate it now. It's just not the same anymore. Although, I do it enjoy seeing the kids faces, especially the youngest when they get brought into the living room for there surprises. Apart from that, it's a miserable time of year. Eat lots of * food which puts ya in a depressing state and one becomes a lazy *. I know it was for me. There was days there I was falling asleep about 4 times during the day then at night I'm wife awake. * my routine up and finding it difficult to get back into now.

    Agree with you about people and loans to keep up with the Joneses! I know two that committed suicide in the last 5 days. One with a large family. I suppose life just got to tough for him which is really sad to see!
     
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    I'll never be as stupid as to suggest that my mental health is tied to football results, but I'm on the up after a * of a year and I'm finding a lot of joy in Celtic at the moment. It could be a coincidence, but it's an interesting thought nonetheless.
     
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    I have suffered from depression most of my life. It was really bad up until I was about 30. Really struggled with it. Have done better since then. But as someone who was a victim of pretty consistent abuse as a child and a lot of my teenage life its nothing that has or will ever go away. I have to live with the things that happened every day and do the best I can. Unfortunately things have been really bad for me the past couple of months which have really dragged my depression and the abuse back for me. The worst its been probably in about 20 years for me. Even found myself one night up late looking at what doses I needed and what to use to kill myself. I had tried to kill myself twice when I was a teenager. Without going into details football quite literally saved my life as a teenager in the end and ultimately gave me much of the life I have had as an *.
    I have thought about posting on this threat many times before but just never did. But I think its important I do as I want to say thank you to the so many of the posters on here who without even knowing it have helped me so much particularly these past 2 months. I am going to see someone this coming week and hopefully that will help me get through this but regardless thank you to the so many great people on here. Celtic truly is so much more then a football club.
     
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    It is certainly not doing me any harm right now. Watching Celtic is almost the only time I have had a smile on my face or found any joy in life the past couple of months.
     
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  16. Northerner Ave Maria

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    We'll always be here mate, no doubt about that, but I'm glad you said you're going to see a mental health practitioner as they'll be able to give you the most tailored support for you.

    I was that way, probably around a year ago now—I'm thinking around May 2021—where I was looking for ways to kill myself. I was looking for quiet fields where people don't walk often nearby in a search for somewhere where my family wouldn't be the ones to find me. I had the goodbye letters written out and all sorts. Me being me, I didn't tell anybody about it, and tried handling it all myself to the point of a mental breakdown, where I had a serene moment one night where all my worries had just left me because I had come to the conclusion that tomorrow would be the day I done the deed so to speak and that tonight would be my last night. I remember sitting there watching TV in bed with my other half with a real content feeling, like I didn't have to worry anymore, because I was dead set on ending it and that my path was just laid out. Luckily, I didn't do anything stupid the next day. Through the grace of * or some other intervention, literally everything that could've happened to stop me from carrying out the suicide, happened.

    These words seem meaningless when you're in the rut but what you're going through right now really isn't permanent and it will pass.

    I got my breakthrough I'd say around August time after a real bad few months and it gave me a new lease of life. They were small steps, but I was just enjoying life more and more. It was the small wins I enjoyed the most. I was a little comfortably numb, in that I invested myself in anything I possibly could as a distraction, but it worked for me and it was better than feeling the way I did.

    Since then, I've moved into a new house, landed myself a new job, and my other half is 12 weeks pregnant and the baby is looking healthy, so it looks like I'm going to be a dad for the first time as well.

    Comparing that to where I was a year from now, it's honestly crazy to think what I was planning of doing. Even if I didn't have these material changes, my head would still be in a much better place and that's the important thing. I remember watching It's A Wonderful Life in the cinemas this Christmas just gone and I cried, quite hard in fact. Despite seeing it before, that film captured the year I basically had, and that film captured the essence of my life really well. They were tears of joy, of course, because I thought of my family, my friends, my neighbours, and so on, and I appreciated them all for what they were.

    I'll be here to listen to anything that's on your mind, mate.
     
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    If Celtic makes you happy, then so be it. There was a time, particularly during one of my worse episodes, where I fell out of love with football. I thought it was too much of a distraction, something utterly worthless and pointless. I looked down on those that were spending their time and energy looking out for transfer news and spending all their money on going to games and whatnot. I felt like the world was going through a moral, cultural, ethical, and spiritual collapse and that things like football were part of the reason why nobody could see any better.

    Now, while I stjll feel like we're in a crazy, complicated world, if something helps people get through it with a smile on their face, then so be it. I'm back into football now after a couple of years of only what I can describe as disillusionment with it all, and I'm much better for it. I love Celtic, our history, and our fans. There'll be ups and downs, but those three things will always be there and that's what's important!
     
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    Good for you that you were able to get through that dark period and even better to hear where you are now 12 months later in your life. That is great to hear.
    Yes I am going to see someone this coming week and we will see how that goes. I have gone and seen different types of doctors, therapists etc at different points over the years. Some help to any extent but none have ever really fundamentally changed things for me. I still deal with what happened and the things done to me every day. The difference is for most of the past 20 years I have been fortunate that the game of football has given me much and that I have been surrounded by some wonderful people in my life who help me deal with it and have enabled me to have a good life mostly the past 20 years. But things can happen and that is all gone and thats what the past 2 months have been for me. But I am trying and so we will see how this weeks visit goes.
     
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    Do you know what your triggers are? I think of them as potholes, things that happen in my life that send me down the wrong path mentally. I'm not fully aware of all of mine, sometimes I'm down certain roads without knowing what got me there, but I'm aware of a few. Knowing what sets me off gives me a better chance at keeping on the one road.

    My advice, for what it's worth, is to make your world as small as you can. I find I'm much happier if my life is only concerned with the things that make me happy. I don't watch the news anymore, I try not to talk or even think about politics, I don't even watch films or listen to music that gets too deep, which kills me because I love Joy Division.

    As bad as it sounds, I don't want to know about Palestinians being bombed, or black men dying in America, because it does my head no good thinking or knowing about it. Call me selfish, but I've tried concerning myself with all the happenings in the world & it near sent me over the edge.

    You mentioned wonderful people around you, I'm glad you have support network. Have you tried talking to somebody close to you about your mental health? Like I said, it's not something I did, but it's something I regret not giving a try.

    Keep me updated on the visit. For now, just one day at a time, mate.
     
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    Good point about triggers. I do actually know the triggers that get me into bad places and have been able to stay on top of them for the most part for a long time now. But the issues I am having now started with something coming totally from the blindside that I just could not have seen coming and that has just made it worse because it really has brought all the * from my childhood back in a really horrible way that has been hard to cope with.

    I get what your saying about making your world small and how that has been a big help for you. Nothing selfish about how your taking care of yourself there at all. For me its not so much about making my world small its about having clear structures that keep me focused on good paths rather then the bad paths. So that is probably similar to what your taking about there in principle.

    Yes I am very lucky I have a great wife family and friends around me. But other then they know really bad * happened to me when I was younger I have never and can never talk about it with them in actual detail. It is just too much there is absolutely no way I could go there.

    I hear you on the one day at a time. That is exactly where I am at. Trying to keep my mind away from that rabbit hole as much as I can. Hopefully my visit later this week will be helpful we will see. I have seen guys like this before and they have helped and then others have actually made it worse.

    Thanks for being so supportive its much appreciated.
     
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