Depression

Hello guys and girls,

Looking for a little advice

over the last 6 months it has been apparent that I am acting out and binge drinking to cope with the loss of my mom last October. when I binge drink (usually just at weekends) and act like a idiot I feel like it takes my mind of my mom, as it causes mayhem with my partner and worse of all I have a ten month old son.

my day consists of a variety of mood swings, usually in the space of 5 minutes, it will be from on cloud 9 to full of fear, dread and gloom and back round again. (this happens during the week not after drinking).

the two things that I have bottled u have lead me to this point;

not being able to cope with my mom passing, and the inability no to talk about it and the inability to admit I may have a mental illness.

I am going to finally bite the bullet and speak with my gp, but does anyone suffer with depression and how do you cope with it on a day to day basis? the feeling of wanting to be alone is getting worse, and getting out of bed on a morning is dreadful.

 

Get some professional help, never mind asking us clowns

 

Go to your gp by all means but my experience is that you'll be passed from pilar to post but go anyway and get the ball rolling, in the meantime there is plenty to read up online and as for opening up and talking why not phone a helpline? Talking to a stranger over the phone may help. Depending on where you live ( I know Glasgow has some drop in classes you can attend) but check your local area.

On a side note, it really is something that needs looked at, more money must be put into mental health. The gp's are almost clueless on the subject and the places like pathways for example are under huge stress due to the demand on the services

 

Have you read Lennie's book? he is honest and open about his fight with depression I imagine reading that someone as famous battles it will help with how to control it

 

Sounds familiar.

Head to the gp.

Exercise will help alot.

 

don't try and take your mind off your mum. remember her and if at all possible go to the graveside and talk to her, this will be very hard at 1st but you will eventually be at ease. and through time visits to her grave will have a calming effect on you.

 

I find generally just talking to someone who understands how you feel helps alot.

I recently lost somebody really close to me and have been finding it hard sometimes, but the drink was only making me worse. So get the dealt with if you can

See your GP and be as open as you can about how you feel.

 

You've made a massive step in admitting there's something up,this is often one of the hardest things to do.Its definitely best seeing your gp as soon as possible as they will advise you where to go from there.No matter how hard it is,try your best to be completely open and honest with the gp...no good leaving with unanswered questions.
Personally,I was diagnosed with depression a couple of years ago now and still take medication daily to help.It works for me in the way that I get up of a morning,can function well in work (most in work have no idea) and can happily mess around with my boys when I'm home.That wasn't the case a couple of years ago,I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel.
Also,something that has helped me massively was having counselling.i was against the idea for a long time but with my gp's persuasion I bit the bullet and went.couldnt believe how much better I felt to just get stuff out on a complete stranger and them helping me to let go of a few things that were contributing to my depression.
Obviously medication and/or counselling doesn't work for everyone and you might find something else that helps,I'm just letting you know what's helped me.
As somebody has mentioned,exercise can help an awful lot!!
Good luck with everything mate.Feel free to message me if you have any questions or looking for advice

 

I get it quite badly.

The best thing you can do is talk about it.

Was never a big drinker but I'm completely teetotal and it's made a world of difference for me.

Go to your gp, cut the drink out and exercise regularly and you should feel the difference

Hope you get better mate.

 

thanks a lot guys, really appreciate the advice.

I will book an appointment to go an see the gp this week. I have found it very hard to admit I have an issue, as im a little unclear what the issue is as its not physical.

many thanks guys

 

Hi, Joe. I am very sorry to hear about your loss and your subsequent problems.

I was in a similar situation some time ago, and what helped me was concentrating on others. I mean, not thinking about myself and my hurt feelings, but about people who are close to me and who I have to take care of (my wife and little daughter) and about things to be done. It was extremely hard at first, but eventually it worked, and I hope it made me a better man.

Another thing that helped me was devotion to Saint Virgin Mary Queen of Poland (I took to wearing the Carmelitan scapular back then) but I don't know if you're a religious person.

By all means, go and see your gp. I am sure that with a little bit of help you will be able to overcome your problems. Best of luck!

 

Be aware that depression should not be regarded different from other illnesses. It may well have a physical cause and you should not be embarrassed about it.

You have made a great step and seeing your GP and talk to him/her about it will be an ever greater step. Always remember that you are not alone in this.

 

Speaking to someone is always the best way. If you get one bad GP then just find another one. I do think Women GP's tend to better at dealing with mental health. There are a lot of ways to beat depression these days not just medicine but cognitive therapy which can be done online where you don't even have to see the person but speaking really does help. Drink is the worst way to deal with things. Anger can also be delt with.

Anyway good luck and stay positive, sorry about your loss.

 

hopefully I can get sorted.

I certainly think exercise will give me great benefits and hopefully something to focus on.

I am a religious person also, I certainly think its time to get my * back to mass.

im frustrated with myself as all I want to be is a good family man, but what I believe to be depression has skewed my priorities terribly due to not knowing the best way to deal with it.

I can honestly say your responses have made a huge difference to me.

 

Well done for speaking about it Joe, that will help enormously. Have suffered from depression for a while and am coping well these days. The key is to get to your GP, take control of the things in your life that you are able to and get yourself into eating well and exercising.

You will be absolutely fine and once you discuss it with family members you will feel so much better.

Feel free to pm me any time for a chat or just to get things off your mind.

 

Basically I've found that only you can drag yourself out of depressio

Definitely exercise a lot.

 

Hi Joe. Hope you got my PM.

For the others on here if you find yourself having to cope with bereavement there are a couple of organisations

For people based in Scotland there is

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For people based in England

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Joe , Whichever way you choose to deal with it good luck mate.

Get as much help as you want or need, & concentrate on
the ones who are still here & need you.