Relationship Problems and Advice

My relationship advice:

 

Like one of my friends motto:

Cheat on her before she cheats on you. :icon_mrgreen:

 

Hate to be a prat guys but that's appalling advice.

Mate, your little lady cheated on you and betrayed your trust. It's obvious it's bugging you, so you came for advice so shrugging it off and pretending like you're not hurt isn't going to work. You need to reflect upon yourself and realize what values you have yourself on this topic. If your values reflect that of monogamy, then this is a BIG deal. She, not you, must best the burden of rebuilding that trust. You, not her, must take time to figure out what your approach to the situation will be. You must make sure you don't end up becoming a control freak but at the same time it is not your job to judge if she it's worthy of being forgiven or not. It is for her to earn.

Once she regains this trust (if she does) then you both can move forward in hopefully what is a fulfilling and happy relationship. Goods luck

 

I think if it's first offence and she fessed up then fair play. At the same time though, see if she does it again, pie her. Don't be made a mug of.

 

That is horrendously bad advice.

 

Been through something similar in the past and stayed with the girl, but don't think i ever truly forgave/got over it. if you are going to stay though you need to be certain that you can forgive her otherwise it is going to become a recurring argument and will more or less destroy your relationship, You essentially need to forget it happened in a way if you say you forgive her then you can't ever bring it up against her again which is where i went wrong. By the sounds of it though she just made a mistake and seems to regret it, but make sure she is aware this is her only chance and you wont forgive her if anything like this happens again.

 

Spot on.
Again, my ex cheated on me. But she really * me over on it. She knew I was in a bad place because of it and made me out to be imagining it all. Truly was a devious wee cow. But she really needed help, as in wasn't all there. She agreed to get help but we didn't last the year. I couldn't trust her, and she would get on at me about trivial things. We broke up and it was defo for the best. She was crazy.ha.

Personally looking back, I was daft for even giving her another chance but love does stupid things. Plus she had a kid who was practically my daughter.
But anyway, I agree with what you say here and think this lad really needs to talk to his girl if that's what he wants.
Hope it all works out either way

 

Seems that when I like a girl for ages and then get close and as soon as she likes me back I get completely put off them.

 

Maybe you are int he "having a crush" stage for too long? One of my mates does the same thing. He builds a girl up to be the greatest piece of * in the known universe, then looses interest because he's on to some other burd before he gets a chance to actually be with any of them.

Do you consider yourself to be a rather shy person? Or maybe actually going for a girl makes you anxious, rather playing the waiting game instead?

Could also be some sort of anxiety creeping into your mindset when you want to approach a girl. Maybe rationalizing thoughts of fear with "nah not really into her anymore."

Get back to us

 

Just found out the girl i love has a boyfriend...anyone recommend an appropriate form of suicide?.

 

http://www.assistedsuicide.org/

Seriously though, give it a few weeks or so mate and ya will be brand new again, just delete all contact wae her and get on wae life, keep yerself busy and you will be fine.

 

Also if its my burd yer talking about two's up( joking )

 

See this give it time stuff, does it actually work? And if so, any idea how much time it takes?

I've been 6 weeks single now and it is defo not getting any easier. Not for me anyway!

 

Depends mate, everyone is different, and if your constantly looking at your ex's fb or constantly asking what she is doing etc you wont get over her,

 

Nah I deleted fb altogether. Think its constantly sitting about my mum's house myself, just miss the company more than anything. Struggling to see the point in anything really

 

That's no right mate, get yourself out wae mates or join a gym or something, keep yourself busy.

 

She's my friend I can't just ignore her.

I would do this, if it wasn't for my crippling social skills

 

2 week bender will sort ye right out

 

Not much of a drinker am afraid..

 

* drugs n rock n roll then fella ,sitting about doing nowt will just set ye daft .