What would you do?

So my older brother is getting married in September. I was looking forward to it as it would be be a chance to have a good knees up with the extended family who don't see each other that often.

The stag do is in August and everyone is heading to Amsterdam for a weekend. I assumed I would be invited but it turns out I'm not and I have no idea why. It seems I am the only person that wasn't invited as my younger brother, brother in law and even my younger cousin were invited. They have booked everything already and even if they asked me to go now I would probably have to say no out of principle. The only reason I found out was because my older sister tapped me for the money so her husband could pay for his share of everything haha.

Me and my brother get on alright, we have had our differences in the past but nothing too major. We meet up nearly every sunday at the ma's house for dinner and watch the football and catch up etc.

I won't lie it has really * me off as apparently they booked it a few months ago.

I don't want to bring it up with him until after the wedding as I don't want there be any bad blood between us. At the end of the day it is his wedding and what he want's is the most important thing but at the same time I'm not sure I can hold my tongue until then. My ma wants to say something to him but the last thing I want is any arguments in the family.

So what would you do? Should I approach him now and say something or pull him aside a few months after the wedding?

 

His missus is alright, never done anything on her or said anything that would result in this. I'm really scratching my head and can't thin of anything

 

No way he assumed you'd automatically go and therefore didnt need to ask? Only justifiable reason. Otherwise, it's *. The problem is, if you say nothing, it'll fester - especially when they go. Your mum probably will say something, even if you ask her not to.

Who is the best man?

 

I'd have a word with the best man. Just ask a few questions about the stag, see how he reacts. Maybe they forgot to ask you, thinking that you would be automatically going.

 

He would know I would have dropped everything to be there. I always have for him and vice-versa. He was the one that booked everything and asked everyone personally to go, well apart from me haha. His best man is his mate Peter. They have been best mates for as long as I can remember so I have no issue with that

 

Maybe just mention it to him in passing - ask him if he's got everything sorted out. Always a chance he's just forgotten to ask everyone.

 

Revenge is a dish best served cold.bide your time.

 

You need to make the best man "go away", and every subsequent best man until you are the sole inheritor.

Only then can you achieve balance in your life again.

 

Maybe he just doesn't want you knowing what he gets up to in the 'dam. :smiley-laughing002:

 

The best man is a friend of mine as well and he hasn't mentioned anything to me. I just asked my little brother about it and he says he doesn't know anything about it. Fecking annoying as *

 

Just put it behind you and get on with your life. Worrying about why people did or didn't do things is pointless as you're never likely to get a straight answer ever. Some people are *, the end.

Be the bigger man and dont let it show one ounce its affected you.

 

We have both been to amsterdam a few times before together though haha

 

Only reason I asked was incase you could have a word with the best man or even your younger brother. Get him to ask who is all going and when he doesn't say you, he can give it 'Is xxxx not going?'

Difficult one. Or ask outright - * it.

 

You need to ask your brother , and I would actually do it now and not wait.

 

I would pull my brother ASAP & find out why.

You will just get bitter if you let it fester.

Are you really ugly /smelly?

 

The fact you are asking us and not your brother leads me to think that your relationship isn't all that close.