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Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses

Discussion in 'TalkCeltic Pub' started by Drakhan, Apr 8, 2016.

Discuss Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses in the TalkCeltic Pub area at TalkCeltic.net.

  1. tarboltontim We have nothing to lose but our chains. Gold Member

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    The long dark nights don't help. Do you use a daylight bulb in the house, some time called a SAD (Seasonally Affective Disorder) lamp? If not it might be worth trying. It certainly helps me and I find the winter months the hardest.
     
  2. Dannybhoy81

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    I normally watch older sitcoms, the office, Alan Partridge etc, I feel in control now but as I was heading to the game on Thursday I had the urge to throw someone in front of the train, that was difficult to deal with. I constantly feel like I'm trying to ruin my own life and can't stop it, although now feels OK in a strange way
     
  3. Blochairnbhoy

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    Look up from CBT guides it’s about cycles and circles. Helps me quite a bit, I know what you mean I sometimes drive home and think about things and just ripping someone to shreds verbally and physically
     
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    I don't think I suffer with seasonal depression, I've had it during the summer as well but I get that it is more prevalent at winter, hence the poor suicide rates men have at this time of year
    I don't know how but I know I'm not doing do well
     
  5. Forestbhoy66 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Don’t know where your from or your surroundings but go for a walk, a long one, have a look around at a pace you don’t get in a car. Be amazed what you have never noticed. If you drive, plan a day out, back pack and all. Just the challenge of walking a hill / mountain is something to plan and look foward to. It gives a sense of achievement which you will want to do again tbh. Exercise is great for helping mental health :50:
     
  6. tarboltontim We have nothing to lose but our chains. Gold Member

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    It's a positive you recognise that something isn't right when you're following trains of thought that clearly upset you. I'd second Blochairnbhoy's suggestion to look into CBT. There are well tried methods of positively redirecting your thoughts and sudden emotions which may help.
     
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    Would echo the sentiment from @Forestbhoy66

    Get outside and go for a walk. Even if it’s just a short one each day to start things off, make it something you schedule into your day. Appreciate what’s out there - and appreciate that you can appreciate it.

    Easier said than done, but try and avoid the drink when possible. If that’s a struggle, try actually scheduling it into your day - I’m going to have 2 beers in the hour after work and not feel bad about it is a lot better than using booze to get through the day. Gives you more control as well.

    You would be surprised at how many men are comfortable talking about their mental health struggles these days. Everyone suffers with it from time to time. Find a support structure that works for you if you can. Colleagues, manager, friends, even support groups. You might find some people don’t know how to help, but you’ll rarely find anyone who isn’t prepared to lend a sympathetic ear, and the very act of talking about it is half of the battle, imo.

    It’s a grim time of year tbh. I don’t feel as though I can ever fully enjoy Christmas like other folk can. I know the reality of it is debt, broke families, depression, alcoholism etc. I find that I get most enjoyment out of it simply by seeing how much other people (mainly kids) enjoy it.
     
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    "Get outside and go for a walk. Even if it’s just a short one each day to start things off, make it something you schedule into your day. Appreciate what’s out there - and appreciate that you can appreciate it."

    Normally I cycle from paisley to Glasgow and then hit the gym, I'm an active guy so I feel the benefit of working out and cycling but it falls away sometimes and can't get it back, it defo slips after a while.
    It's hard work keeping yourself right day after day, I can only do X,Y or Z or I need to get up at this time and not drink coffee etc, I'm just feeling tired right now, I wish I was a bit more normal sometimes but hey we all have a burden of some sort, I just wish I could have a day off
     
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    I get it mate, but without knowing your situation I wouldn’t necessarily think you’re not normal.

    Everyone struggles. Everyone goes through good times and bad times. I find I get better at coping with them the more I’ve learnt to recognise them.

    Even talking about it here is a massive step in the right direction, imo. Keep talking about it if it you can.
     
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    I find physical activity is a must for keeping my depression and anxiety at bay

    I stopped drinking a little over a year ago,something I never thought I'd be able to do

    Not having suicidal hangovers has been a blessing

    I'd have never gotten either under control if I was still boozing
     
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    Talking definitely helps and I like I'm starting to see it earlier than I used to and in a weird way that makes me feel worse as I feel it coming lol but yeah it's better to be aware than not
     
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    Totally with you on that, physical workouts are my * send, i see the difference when I work out to having a break. I'm getting off the booze in new year and joining a boxing gym, I get how booze upsets your mood but sometimes seems like a good option to have a break (however temporarily)
     
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  13. leeso-ardoyne Lord of the Chickpeas

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    I agree so much with this. Walking is amazing for clearing ones head. I try to get out walking as much as I can although Im only doing it now once a week or worse, once every two weeks but after the stresses of work life during the week, dragging the kids(although they hate it haha) out with me for a few hours walking out where I live is amazing for clearing all those negative thoughts one builds up. All I can advise is, pick a different place and go for them walks. The hardest part is getting off the chair and getting out the door. Once that is done, the rest is the easy part.



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    Less caffeine helps too mate , if you do drink them , walking defo helped me.

    All the best
     
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    I tend to avoid alcohol now too. Don’t know what it is about it, but it makes me more anxious and makes me think that people are judging my every move. I know that sounds stupid, but it’s the case every time I drink.

    I suffered with social anxiety for a long time. I look back at my university years (and much of my 20s) and think I * them away a bit through an illogical fear of being judged or making a fool out of myself. Turned 30 recently and still struggle with it from time to time, but I’m miles ahead of where I was. I remember getting to the front door of a party once and turning back, such was the discomfort at socialising with people I didn’t know :giggle1:
     
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    Brilliant advice and you are correct , the hardest part is getting ff the chair.
     
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    Is there a way for you to get a pet? Walking is even easier with a dog beside you. Cats work wonders for mood, too.
     
  18. leeso-ardoyne Lord of the Chickpeas

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    Sorry, I forget to add. Putting down the phone and getting out the door is the hardest part. These phones have hooked us like a big salmon and it's near impossible to put the bastarding things down. These would be one of the most reasons why everyone's heads are * now. Even getting rid of them for a few days people have withdrawal symptoms they are thst bad!
     
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    Just wanted to post this in here in case anyone ever needs a chat, especially at this time of year as it can be a terrible time for some people. Anyone who ever needs someone to talk to for a chat about how they’re feeling or anything at all, then feel free to pm me and i can give you my number, talking to people was the best thing for me, especially to people who weren’t close pals etc as i could just totally offload everything. No matter the time of night if I’m online and anyone’s struggling then I’m always there to talk to if you feel it would help, no matter what time it is, certain people have helped me massively by doing the same.
     
  20. Mince.Charming

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    I take quite a few supplements to help combat my depression.

    Vitamin D ( cheap)
    Magnesium glycinate
    Vitamin b12 (jarrow chew)( cheap)
    Vitamin C 1gram daily ( cheap)

    I've started taking high EPA the past week and I've seen a big improvement in my mood.
    I'd recommend it highly.
    All available on amazon.

    I recommend watching videos by Leo and longevity a biohacker. The guys knowledge is second to none.

    Ive recently switched to decaf in coffee and tea and it's been brilliant for sleep. Not anxious either.

    A combination of this and exercise. Low sugar and low carb diet too.
    I recommend Ted Naiman P.E diet for those struggling with weight loss etc.

    I can notice when I stray away from these things that my anxiety, depression come back.

    I know from my own experience, that if you're already feeling low and depressed then you have nothing to lose by giving these things a go with an open mind.

    I hope this can help someone.
     
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