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Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses

Discussion in 'TalkCeltic Pub' started by Drakhan, Apr 8, 2016.

Discuss Coping with Depression, Stress, Anxiety and other Mental Health Illnesses in the TalkCeltic Pub area at TalkCeltic.net.

  1. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    I feel a wee bit like i can open up slightly and piece together a wee bit of it just now lads, thanks. Basically me and my missus finished about 5 months ago, and my best mate who I’ve been mates with since 4 years old goes with her best pal, so it ended up a bit of a mess, anyway I’d been feeling like * since we split up and me and my mates were in the pub a few months ago and i was totally black out drunk (can’t remember a thing) i ended up fighting with my best mate and I was apparently just behaving like a total psycho and being a total * to him, since then we haven’t spoke I’ve apologised many times and I can understand why he doesn’t want to talk to me after what’s happened, but (and it’s not an excuse) I get so aggressive when I’m depressed and there’s alcohol involved, anyone have similar experiences?
     
  2. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Any kind of negative feedback is welcomed as well, i know that all of that’s my fault. To be like that to your best mate of your whole life is the lowest of the low i know that.
     
  3. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    The community spirit is incredible on this forum, I’m totally overwhelmed at the messages I’ve had since posting about how I’m feeling, talk Celtic and Celtic itself is truly like a family.
     
  4. packybhoy Administrator Administrator

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    Mate cut down on the alcohol. Your mix of meds for your condition with alcohol is a very potent mix and is causing an adverse reaction to the one your hoping for. I’m not preaching as I have a few beers on Wednesday and Saturday. Only 5/6 big bottles but it knocks me completely out. That should be your first goal and prove your mental strength to your own body and it changes the lay of the land. It will also help in your day to day to the point you will be aware when the mood darkens and you know how to juggle it. It is not easy but you need to give yourself a chance.

    As for relationship issue, all I can say is everyone has their problems in that regard. If you choose to invest all your time in a partner and things go bad then it can be devastating for some. Time will make it much better and you will be stronger for the experience but it doesn’t help the immediate circumstance. Chin up and stay strong. Even try typing the biggest load of * on how your feeling and read back on it to try to form an evaluation on where you are right now. Would be interesting in 6 months time to read back and gauge how far you have come.
     
  5. craigtheceltic

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    Hey mate, just stumbled across this thread and saw you are having a rough trot. I might have missed some of your earlier posts so by all means disregard my advice if I sound like I’m coming off like a *.

    Fews years back I got diagnosed with vertigo which literally turned my life upside down. I’m cured now but at the time I thought it was going to have a severe impact on my life. It lead to some anxiety for me that I’d never experience before.

    The only way I found I could get rid of it was to quit sugar, coke no sugar and alcohol. Why those 3 things? I have no idea except that I know alcohol is no good for anxiety. Dropping the alcohol was fine, I just moved to the zero alcohol drinks.

    The sugar and the coke no sugar withdrawals lasted about 2-3 weeks. The headaches felt never ending and the cravings were real. But I told and convinced myself by eating the sugar and drinking the coke no sugar, it was killing me. And it probably was.

    Since I did that my anxiety is virtually nonexistent. Every now and then I find myself a bit tense but a bit of breathing and relaxation and it’s gone quickly.

    You said you are a heavy drinker, try giving it up. Seriously you won’t know yourself. Alcohol increases anxiety. When I used to drink, I’d sometimes have anxiety for days after a session. I didn’t drink often but I did notice the difference after, so much so that lead me to giving it the flick.

    The up side of giving up the drink, there’s a chance your mate will forgive you because you realise that’s the root cause of your fallout. If you don’t get your mate back, at least you go someway to improving your health.

    Another thing I did was connect with the environment. Be present in your circumstances, such as if you are walking down the street, feel the wind ruffling your hair, the sun on your skin, take in the smells around you and look at the trees around you(when you do this identify individual flowers or leaves). Be like a kid again and walk across grass in bare feet. The idea is to bring your thoughts outside of your head and onto the beautiful yet simple things around you.

    All of those things helped me and I took a daily multivitamin(could have been low on something or could have been a placebo effect).

    Now that was my story, I’ll tell you a little about my brother.

    He also suffered anxiety. Eventually he went to a doctor and he was diagnosed with a over(under) active thyroid. I don’t remember if it was over or under active, but the result was he saw a specialist who put him on a course of medication to put the thyroid back on track. He battled the anxiety for a few years, before his doctor visit and he almost lost his marriage because of it. Now his marriage is going strong and he’s got a couple of rug rats.

    Good luck with your path and I wish you the very best.
     
  6. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Thanks for the reply mate. :50:
     
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  7. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Thanks for the brilliant reply mate, definitely sounds like I need to quit the alcohol. I wasn’t sure what vertigo was until i Google’d it there, sounds like a total nightmare, glad to hear you’re cured now!
     
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    Sorry to hear about your issues mate.
    For what its worth ill give you my advice,and i know its easier said than done but leave the past in the past its done and dusted and your best bet is to forget it and look forward to a new and positive life.

    To me you cant beat exercise,exercise will open so many new doors for you in so many ways,the feeling after a major session is brilliant and after a few sessions youll find your focusing on healthier things in life foods,drinks,lifestyle which in turn leads to other things in life which you may not have come across.

    Even better join a gym and do the classes,youll be surprised how much it helps you with your depression,and over time youll start to feel and look a lot better.Have a read of a couple of self help books(not for everyone i know).Iv read a few over the years(find it an interesting subject the poor of positive thinking)and think they can be a great help to people.

    Anyway i hope you take something from this post that will help you get back to a better place....oh and one other thing,walk away from people in your life who dont bring anything positive to your life these people will drag you down and take joy seeing you suffer,dont be the victim brush yourself down and get out there and enjoy your life.
     
  9. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Thanks for the reply mate.:50:
     
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    Ill post this again but wont apply to everyone, but we can help ourselves physically better deal with anxiety etc, a lot of people never realize their anxiety or mood might be because they are deficient in key nutrients, for me I always had a bit of anxiety sometimes it would blow up, I stumbled on a post on Reddit suggesting magnesium deficiency and at first I thought it sounded a bit far fetched, but a lot of people are deficient in this.

    I tried a Vitamin C and Magnesium drink and within 30mins I felt calm and chilled, I have swore by it since. I suggest people to give it a try it might not work for you as your anxiety may be exacerbated by something else but wont harm to try.

    The other thing is as many of you are in UK or Ireland the winters can * you up, invest in a blue light, this thing is also great for jet lag and fixing sleeping patterns, it mimics the natural blue light from the sun to stop our body releasing melatonin during the day, if you are tired a lot during the day especially in winter.

    Amazon.com: Philips GoLite BLU Energy Light Therapy Lamp, (HF3422/60) : Health & Household

    TIL magnesium can be very effective vs anxiety, many people are quite deficient and a good supplement can be as effective as meds but with positive side effects : todayilearned (reddit.com)
     
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    This is a great post as guys find it hard to deal with depression, mental health issues. I split up with my partner of 16 years about 10 months ago, moved into my own flat started a new job. But I was working from home which had a great impact on me , felt each day was a bit like eat sleep repeat. I do exercise which is a good benefit but there was days when I felt low but with help from my daughters and family they helped and again it is good to talk . Just staying positive each day
     
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    Can anyone help answer a couple questions? Its flaring up my anxiety alot.

    Basically i was in an acceand had some ptsd. Ventured into the car for the first time since it happened.

    I came upto traffic lights in Ayr by the racecourse and it was amber but turned to red as i got it and and i went through. The wee black box things on the top of the lights are they cameras? Ayr only has 2 that im aware off. But after checking every set of lights i have past i now see these we black square boxes.

    Secondly, travelling to hospital the smae day later on, i was in a 50 zone and was doing about 56-58 but slowed down soon as i realised i was going a bit fast. There was a speed van up the road, both windows were closed, when i came out of hospital i had a look driving past and i seen the flap was open and the camera out. Would i be ok with this? I haven't realised how much my accidet has actually affected my decisions and mental health since. Im now staying out the car for a bit unless i need urgent journeys.
     
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    Would think that if the camera doors were closed the camera wouldn't be operating. Did the camera on the lights flash? The wee boxes might be sensors to control the traffic flow.

    Good luck to everyone posting on here
     
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  14. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    You’ll be sound mate in my opinion almost definitely sure. Sorry to hear about your anxiety it’s the worst thing in the world, we all make wee mistakes in the car, don’t panic about it.
     
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  15. Cumbernauld Bhoy67 Gold Member Gold Member

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    Cheers buster, cracking thread this! Almost as good as the burd in your profile pic. :giggle1:
     
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  16. Wullywanbaw

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    Thats what i thought as well, that the window would be open, it was when was heading home. Nah mate it didn't, its just a wee black box pointing down. No flashes as no camera was on the other side of the lights. Very similar to that.
     

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    Starting to find the end of this year a struggle, I'm OK just now but starting to medicate with alcohol to get me through work. This is the hardest time for many men, I hope you all feel good and have nice Christmas and new year
     
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    Always come on here pal someone always on babbling some *
     
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    Cheers man, nice to get a reply. I've been feeling the mental degradation for a couple of weeks now, feeling very nihilistic these days, which is scary
     
  20. Blochairnbhoy

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    Aye not good mate, try to stay away from news also, watch some comedy box sets always helps me
     
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