Relationship Problems and Advice

I felt like that for a while last year with a girl from Elgin. We would talk over msn and webcam every night and text all day unless she was at work or college. I felt like i loved her but i didn't. I just REALLY liked her. She would go out at weekends and that when i was doing * all because i'm a boring * and i was fine with that. We arranged to meet up in Inverness and we spent the day together. Bought lunch for her and even bought her a DVD she really wanted. Got my tongue down her at the train station before she went home. She then ignored me for the whole weekend and told me on Sunday night that she just wants to be friends. After filling my head with pish like i love you, i want to be with you bla bla bla.

* must of thought i was a minger. *

 

This is more or less what i was going to say.

If you see this relationship working fair play, try and keep it going. But in all honesty i can't see it working long term.

 

used for a munch and a dvd

 

I actually know how you feel Greame, i had a similar thing with a girl from New York a little while back, i thought i loved her, we got on great, but in the end(after 9 months of being in what kinda was, but wasnt really a relationship) i decided to cut it off, it was tough, but the reality was we were never going to be together, and i had to accept it and move on. We kept talking as friends for a month or two,but it wasnt the same and we went our separate ways.

After i done that(in May), I went on dating sites, as i two had trouble talking to girls upfront, i never thought they'd like me, as im shy and dont really come out my shell right away. I found a girl who i went out with for a month, didnt work out, she was a bit nuts in the end...but then, and heres the happy part...i Met another girl on a dating site, one who was just looking for friends, she now is my friend in real life, but before we met in real life, she introduced me to her cousin, who is now my Girlfriend. The "love" i felt for the girl in new york wasnt love, i know that now, cause since i met my current GF, ive really learned what that word means, i love my GF to bits,shes the best thing thats ever happened to me and i dont think ive ever been happier.

Also worth noting that i never thought i had a hope in * of being in a relationship with her, shes really sweet and funny and shes much more attractive than me, so it just goes to show....when you close one door, then other doors open, sometimes better, sometimes worse than the last. Its just a chance you have to take at times.

Now im not saying you should cut it off with her, but i am myself a victim of the long distance relationship and since i decided to end it, my life has just gotten better and better, im more sociable, im happier, and i have a lovely Scottish Girlfriend who i love.

Just showing you that there is life after the Aussie lass.

Whatever happens, or whatever you do, i hope it all works out for you, whether you meet her in real life and become a couple or break it off and meet someone else.

Goodluck mate

EDIT: Ive also realised since ive become more social, i get on really well with girls, all my friends in college are girls haha. In school all my friends were guys, and i just thought girls didnt like me in general, but since i can actually talk to them now, i get on really well with them. So maybe if you stop being shy you might learn the same

 

This is going to sound harsh, man up an put yourself about a bit.

If she eventually moves over here to study then worry about it. There's * all that can and will happen just now.

 

i know this sounds bad, but ignore her, from you not texting her or skyping her she will wonder why and think u might be with another girl and get jealous works everytime

 

I think somebody has to be brutally honest with you here mate, so i'm going to. Go out, go to the pub/dancing, meet a normal person that isn't a wee lassie. Falling in love with a girl in Australia over the internet who is 17 is creepy as *!

 

Depends what you're wanting her? Ant your nuts, thats the way forward

Anything else then I find if you play games like that in the initial stages it's probably not worth it anyway.

 

I wish there were many Scottish/Irish ladies here in my area. I have always thought they are pretty cool, especially the Irish ones!

 

plentyoffish.com

 

Haha. I doubt some chick from Ireland or the UK would hook up with a Yank on that site lol.

 

All well and easy to tell him to man up but for some guys it really is very very difficult to talk to girls/women i find that myself to a certain extent.

So when people say to others to man up its a bit condescending to be perfectly honest. Anyway my two cents on this particular situation would be to stop texting her and asking when she will 'skype' with you, just wait a few days and if she contacts you then i would say thats good and if she doesn't then move on.

You said you were 21 are you at Uni? Maybe try to get to know girls in your classes better, you already have something in common and start from there.

Saying that there is a girl in my history class who i find very attractive and very nice, not entirely sure if she has a boyfriend, spoken to her a few times but mainly when discussing topics in class, not entirely sure myself how to make the next step.

 

Here goes...

I met this girl in a club about a year ago. I'm 24, She's 21, friend of a friend type of thing... She ended up adding me on Facebook.

I started speaking to her and we swapped numbers. We then spent about a month texting before we seen each other out, both drunk and ended up back at mine. This happened a few more times when we seen each other out and went on for a good while. I could tell she started really liking me.

I then thought I'd be blunt and tell her that I wasn't looking for a girlfriend and won't be for a while, so it isn't going to happen between us. She said that was fine as she felt the same.

Seemed legit until on three different occasions she seen me speaking to other girls. One time she threw a drink on me. One time she slapped me and the other time she told the girl she was my girlfriend.... I thought * this and said we wouldn't be sleeping together anymore. She continued to speak to me for a few months. Then started ignoring me last month for two weeks. Eventually texting me out of the blue, saying that she was in love with me and needed to try and forget about me but can't... Oh *! I've still told her its never going to happen and we will only ever be friends...

She now continues to txt me every other day asking if she can come round or do I want to go hers...

Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

 

I reckon you're good in bed Peekay.

 

Just tell her shes a freak and that she should * off. Harsh, but sometimes harsh is the only thing that gets through to them.

 

Completely ignore her

 

Make it like you lost all your contact info and never answer her, or fake a diff accent and say wrong number haha.

 

Give her a farewell pump, * on her face then tell her to * off before shes even wiped it off....surely she will fall straight out of "love" with you after that.

 

Get her put down.

 

Birds like this do my * head in. You pump some bird a few times when you`re drunk and *, tell them what the script is and then they still start all this *. Tell her to take the hint and * off.