No need to thank me, im just glad someone can see the post for what it is. right to the point as situations like this need. Ill agree that my wording could be better, but im a daft * would left school at 15(and the schooling wasnt all that great) during the troubles in the north and wouldnt have all them fancy words in my vocabulary. Thats my excuse anyway haha. You aint no idiot, it happens to the best of us. At least your doing something about it because some would stay just for staying even if it makes them miserable. It wont be easy leaving because you have an emotional attachment to her, it will be tough but your doing the correct thing. Best to sort yourself out then find someone who youll be happy with. I will bet my balls on it that when the * hits the fan, you are going to see one nasty * in her. Ive seen it to much when break-ups happen. The other halves can turn into right devious * which makes you think, what in the name of good * did they see in the other half in the first place. Your name will be dragged through the mud, lies will be told about you and so on. Best to rise above it and just take it on the chin. What will annoy her more is if you ignore it. Pack your bags and GTF out of there and let the legal * take care of itself. With the right mindset, it always works out in the end. Good luck!!