HeartBroken? Or Madly In Love?

[MissKarris]

I know this is a very personal request, but im doing some research and need a little help....

If anyone on here is madly in love with their other half, or completely heartbroken about losing their other half, or maybe heartbroken simply because nothing has ever happened with the one you love, i'd appreciate it so much if you would be willing to write a short paragraph about how you currently feel or did feel at the time..

my email address is the_girl_wonder@hotmail.com if you dont want to post it publicly...

it would remain completely anonymous, unless you wanted to put your initials at the end or something....

thanks!

xxx

[kennydal]

i love my wife we will be married 20 years this year ,and ive knowing her for 23years, she is everything to me ,my love ,my pal, my lover ,and my insriration ,we know what each other are thinking ,and we have worked very hard in bringing up 4 kids ,which doesnt get easier as they get older ,they too ,are my loves ,there is allways laughing ,carrying on ,music playing ,in this house ,but i do treasure my wife, shes beautiful in every way ,and doesnt have a bad bone in her body ,i could go on all day ,but nuff said

[craigyjac]

Originally Posted by kennydal

i love my wife we will be married 20 years this year ,and ive knowing her for 23years, she is everything to me ,my love ,my pal, my lover ,and my insriration ,we know what each other are thinking ,and we have worked very hard in bringing up 4 kids ,which doesnt get easier as they get older ,they too ,are my loves ,there is allways laughing ,carrying on ,music playing ,in this house ,but i do treasure my wife, shes beautiful in every way ,and doesnt have a bad bone in her body ,i could go on all day ,but nuff said

well said mate, i think you covered partly how a lot of us feel but are too fuckin macho to admit it to people

[kennydal]

Originally Posted by craigyjac1888

well said mate, i think you covered partly how a lot of us feel but are too fuckin macho to admit it to people

ano what your saying mate about the macho thing ,guys should drop that tag when it comes to talking about there wifes ,partners etc ,you should be proud to talk about them

[craigyjac]

Originally Posted by kennydal

ano what your saying mate about the macho thing ,guys should drop that tag when it comes to talking about there wifes ,partners etc ,you should be proud to talk about them

i know fella, she know how i feel and so does our friends and family. cheers for the advice though.

[jeannie960]

Been married 25 yrs this year and would do it all again. Love him to bits and live for him. I can't imagine how I would ever cope if anything ever happened to him. He's my best friend and the love of my life.

[rendog67]

I hope your not trying to find out which of the bhoys is single, if you are very clever.

nah just kidding.

im 27 have been in a healthy relationship with my partner also 27 for about 7 years, we have 2 kids josh 4 and kayla 5. We both met at work and had a thing for each other, so really none of us had to do any chasing as it was pretty much love at first sight for both of us. This has stood us in good stead, and our only problem at the moment is paying for a family holiday this year somewhere nice, so any help on that would be appreciated.

[wetghirl]

Hmm, how to answer this truthfully...

I met my husband 24 years ago when I was a 21-year-old art student and he was a 37-year-old mailman. I loved his voice, and right from the start he was the initiator, calling me up for conversations that would last for hours as we talked about everything under the sun. We married the following year and the first of our four children was born 2 years later.

When we'd been married 10 years, he suddenly announced that it had been his secret life-long ambition to become a police officer. I was very apprehensive about this until he pointed out that the majority of USA cops never have a need to fire a weapon in the course of their careers.

He worked really hard getting through academy and I couldn't be prouder of what he accomplished then and now, but their's no question that being a cop has changed him in a way which neither of us ever expected. He tends to bring his 'work attitude' home, which means if something isn't to his liking, the children and I may undergo an interrogation of sorts.

The worst of it is when he chose to work the overnight shift when our youngest (now 12) was a baby. I begged him not to, but he felt that we needed the bigger income that went with Last Halves, so I held my tongue and tried to be as supportive as possible, but it was a year before I could fall asleep w/o leaving the light on. It felt like my friend and protector had abandoned me, though I know that was not his thinking.

I got used to being w/o him, but that's a double-edged sword. You can't keep eating your heart out for someone who isn't there, and over time that sense that he was my best friend in the whole world cooled off. I still love him, but it's almost the kind of love I have for my children in that I'm concerned for his well being and I wouldn't hurt him for anything, but if I were to meet him all over again for the first time under these circumstances, I don't know if he would still be my choice or not.

(am I in tears as I write this? you bet!)

This January he finally switched to daytime hours, but he's still working overtime during the night so much that it almost seems to be no difference. He's 61 now and I'm 45. He'll retire in 4 years, and then we'll have to get reacquainted all over again. I hope it's not too late! For my children's sake I want their home to stay whole and harmonious, but it will not be easy. I know that in my mind I have to release my grief and anger over the 'lost years' of too many nights spent all alone, that I can't hold it against him if we're to make this work. I didn't nag, but I didn't stay silent either about what it was doing to me at the time, and he finally admitted recently that he knew all along how tough it was on me, but that he did it 'cause it was the kind of work he loved and he felt less of a man w/o it.

It isn't what I wanted but it's what I got, and I know there are worse situations than mine out there. I'm a big ghirl, I'll manage.

[Martin]

Originally Posted by kennydal

i love my wife we will be married 20 years this year ,and ive knowing her for 23years, she is everything to me ,my love ,my pal, my lover ,and my insriration ,we know what each other are thinking ,and we have worked very hard in bringing up 4 kids ,which doesnt get easier as they get older ,they too ,are my loves ,there is allways laughing ,carrying on ,music playing ,in this house ,but i do treasure my wife, shes beautiful in every way ,and doesnt have a bad bone in her body ,i could go on all day ,but nuff said

Great post KD.

[rendog67]

Originally Posted by wetghirl

Hmm, how to answer this truthfully...

I met my husband 24 years ago when I was a 21-year-old art student and he was a 37-year-old mailman. I loved his voice, and right from the start he was the initiator, calling me up for conversations that would last for hours as we talked about everything under the sun. We married the following year and the first of our four children was born 2 years later.

When we'd been married 10 years, he suddenly announced that it had been his secret life-long ambition to become a police officer. I was very apprehensive about this until he pointed out that the majority of USA cops never have a need to fire a weapon in the course of their careers.

He worked really hard getting through academy and I couldn't be prouder of what he accomplished then and now, but their's no question that being a cop has changed him in a way which neither of us ever expected. He tends to bring his 'work attitude' home, which means if something isn't to his liking, the children and I may undergo an interrogation of sorts.

The worst of it is when he chose to work the overnight shift when our youngest (now 12) was a baby. I begged him not to, but he felt that we needed the bigger income that went with Last Halves, so I held my tongue and tried to be as supportive as possible, but it was a year before I could fall asleep w/o leaving the light on. It felt like my friend and protector had abandoned me, though I know that was not his thinking.

I got used to being w/o him, but that's a double-edged sword. You can't keep eating your heart out for someone who isn't there, and over time that sense that he was my best friend in the whole world cooled off. I still love him, but it's almost the kind of love I have for my children in that I'm concerned for his well being and I wouldn't hurt him for anything, but if I were to meet him all over again for the first time under these circumstances, I don't know if he would still be my choice or not.

(am I in tears as I write this? you bet!)

This January he finally switched to daytime hours, but he's still working overtime during the night so much that it almost seems to be no difference. He's 61 now and I'm 45. He'll retire in 4 years, and then we'll have to get reacquainted all over again. I hope it's not too late! For my children's sake I want their home to stay whole and harmonious, but it will not be easy. I know that in my mind I have to release my grief and anger over the 'lost years' of too many nights spent all alone, that I can't hold it against him if we're to make this work. I didn't nag, but I didn't stay silent either about what it was doing to me at the time, and he finally admitted recently that he knew all along how tough it was on me, but that he did it 'cause it was the kind of work he loved and he felt less of a man w/o it.

It isn't what I wanted but it's what I got, and I know there are worse situations than mine out there. I'm a big ghirl, I'll manage.

Hi it sounds to me like you really dont speak much about each others (and sespecially your) needs. Lets say your husband managed to read this how do you think he would feel? Would he maybe wake up and smell the coffee?

Dr Rendog

[craigyjac]

its never too late unless you want it to be too late.( my gran used to say that to me, i always thought it was rubbish but there is def truth in it).
i didnt expect any conversations like this when i joined, it just goes to show eh?

[jeannie960]

Originally Posted by wetghirl

Hmm, how to answer this truthfully...

I met my husband 24 years ago when I was a 21-year-old art student and he was a 37-year-old mailman. I loved his voice, and right from the start he was the initiator, calling me up for conversations that would last for hours as we talked about everything under the sun. We married the following year and the first of our four children was born 2 years later.

When we'd been married 10 years, he suddenly announced that it had been his secret life-long ambition to become a police officer. I was very apprehensive about this until he pointed out that the majority of USA cops never have a need to fire a weapon in the course of their careers.

He worked really hard getting through academy and I couldn't be prouder of what he accomplished then and now, but their's no question that being a cop has changed him in a way which neither of us ever expected. He tends to bring his 'work attitude' home, which means if something isn't to his liking, the children and I may undergo an interrogation of sorts.

The worst of it is when he chose to work the overnight shift when our youngest (now 12) was a baby. I begged him not to, but he felt that we needed the bigger income that went with Last Halves, so I held my tongue and tried to be as supportive as possible, but it was a year before I could fall asleep w/o leaving the light on. It felt like my friend and protector had abandoned me, though I know that was not his thinking.

I got used to being w/o him, but that's a double-edged sword. You can't keep eating your heart out for someone who isn't there, and over time that sense that he was my best friend in the whole world cooled off. I still love him, but it's almost the kind of love I have for my children in that I'm concerned for his well being and I wouldn't hurt him for anything, but if I were to meet him all over again for the first time under these circumstances, I don't know if he would still be my choice or not.

(am I in tears as I write this? you bet!)

This January he finally switched to daytime hours, but he's still working overtime during the night so much that it almost seems to be no difference. He's 61 now and I'm 45. He'll retire in 4 years, and then we'll have to get reacquainted all over again. I hope it's not too late! For my children's sake I want their home to stay whole and harmonious, but it will not be easy. I know that in my mind I have to release my grief and anger over the 'lost years' of too many nights spent all alone, that I can't hold it against him if we're to make this work. I didn't nag, but I didn't stay silent either about what it was doing to me at the time, and he finally admitted recently that he knew all along how tough it was on me, but that he did it 'cause it was the kind of work he loved and he felt less of a man w/o it.

It isn't what I wanted but it's what I got, and I know there are worse situations than mine out there. I'm a big ghirl, I'll manage.

I don't want to be rude and say what I really think of that man of yours but what I will say is that only a very strong women would have gotten through those years and come out the other end still wanting it to work. I wish you all the best as you deserve it

[wetghirl]

I'd thought of emailing it privately, but then it occurred to me, y'know, lotta young lads on here w' their lives still before them, and if I had once piece of advice on how to be happily married I'd say don't take shift work if you can possibly help it, and if you can't help it, make provisions for it.

Never EVER take anything or anyone for granted.

[jeannie960]

Originally Posted by craigyjac1888

its never too late unless you want it to be too late.( my gran used to say that to me, i always thought it was rubbish but there is def truth in it).
i didnt expect any conversations like this when i joined, it just goes to show eh?

This is a crazy site to be sure what with the combination of the young and old contributing and we have the most amazing debates

[wetghirl]

Originally Posted by jeannie960

I don't want to be rude and say what I really think of that man of yours but what I will say is that only a very strong women would have gotten through those years and come out the other end still wanting it to work. I wish you all the best as you deserve it

Would that I were strong!

Thank you so very much, I'll take all the good wishes and prayers that I can get 'cause I sorely need them.